Well, they share a whole lot in common in my opinion-- they fight demons and that's both of their main purposes in life. They enjoy the fight, they're athletic, they train, etc. Sure, we didn't really get a good insight into Buffy's extracurricular interests but that's because she didn't have a lot of time for it. In my view, I see Buffy as a writer and generally creative person-- we know that she journaled and was drawing at least once. Angel is also creative. They enjoy sports on ice ;), movies, etc. Plus, the possibilities for post-series Buffy are really endless. We saw Angel after 250+ years of developing different interests-- when he was Buffy's age in Galway, he didn't seem to like to do much other than drink and screw and I doubt he was reading great literature and going to operas. We saw Buffy as a high schooler and college-age woman. I have no doubt that her interests would grow and expand as she gains more life-experience-- just like Angel did.
I think the argument that Buffy and Angel wouldn't work because they have nothing in common is ludicrous (not that you're saying that-- I'm just taking it there). They actually share the most significant part of their lives-- their world view and life mission-- in common and they complement one another in personality areas. Both are independent, dominant people and would probably need some personal space so being in a relationship with someone who wanted to do *everything* with them would be stifling. In addition, other than pre-college Buffy making fun of Angel for his reading materials, there really isn't any evidence that they don't like the things the other does or that they couldn't grow to share common interests if they actually had any time to devote to hobbies rather than keeping the world safe.
The biggest predictors of failed relationships are differences in opinion on major worldviews and fights about finances-- not how many extracurricular interests the couple holds in common. I don't read sports books or watch hockey on television, and my husband doesn't read/write fanfic or shop crazily for shoes and handbags. But we hold common values and beliefs and are compatible on the "big stuff". That's what's important and those things are true of B/A IMO.
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Date: 2004-11-05 03:19 pm (UTC)I think the argument that Buffy and Angel wouldn't work because they have nothing in common is ludicrous (not that you're saying that-- I'm just taking it there). They actually share the most significant part of their lives-- their world view and life mission-- in common and they complement one another in personality areas. Both are independent, dominant people and would probably need some personal space so being in a relationship with someone who wanted to do *everything* with them would be stifling. In addition, other than pre-college Buffy making fun of Angel for his reading materials, there really isn't any evidence that they don't like the things the other does or that they couldn't grow to share common interests if they actually had any time to devote to hobbies rather than keeping the world safe.
The biggest predictors of failed relationships are differences in opinion on major worldviews and fights about finances-- not how many extracurricular interests the couple holds in common. I don't read sports books or watch hockey on television, and my husband doesn't read/write fanfic or shop crazily for shoes and handbags. But we hold common values and beliefs and are compatible on the "big stuff". That's what's important and those things are true of B/A IMO.