I love Costco

[cornerofmadness]

It's probably a good thing I don't have one near me or I'd be broke. Bought so much stuff on Mom's card today I had to go because that's where I got my tires and the assholes at Nourse Honda in Chillicothe rotated my tires but did NOT balance them so the steering wheel shimmied. Costco balances for free (If I knew that I would have just done that).

We went from there to Macy's where I found two sets of shoes on their last act and got them both for under 40$. C3PO and R2D2 boat shoes and floral velvet combat boots which will be great for my steampunk cosplay. I was super happy with them...until I got home.

Dad of course wants to know what I got and at first he liked them. Later in the evening he saw me taking pictures because I thought you all might like to see them and started mocking me and berating me for posting too much because my uncle and my cousin complain to him about it. Okay this is NOT the first time I've heard this. How about this, if it bothers you a) tell me b) fuck off my feed. Quit going behind my back. And then told me I was too old for those shoes.

This is not the first time he's ruined something I liked. I bought two beautiful outfits several years ago and he told me one looked like a rag and the other like a clown (I know I've mentioned this before). Even all these years later, that's all I hear in my head even though I've had many compliments on these items, all I hear is the mocking. (And I'm reading a fascinating book that explains in neuroscience talk WHY bad memories stay with you when the good don't).

Over the course of the evening (and yesterday) he's asked questions then argued when he didn't like the answers. Head desk.

Comments

[ysilme]

What a miserable thing to do, to ruin this in such a way for you!
The shoes sound terrific, and definitely not like something one might be to old for. Generally, I think everybody should wear what they enjoy and feel good in, although there are some pieces of clothing perhaps no longer suitable at a certain age (although I have my doubt if they are really suitable for any age). Clothing is a super sensitive topic for me, as I've always been overweight and always felt more or less insecure with what I was wearing. Recently, I've completely changed my style, because I was so fed up with everything. Now I'm happily wearing a lot of bright colours, often patterns, mix styles I didn't think would go together, but mainly chose my clothing for what I want to wear and feel good in. Most things are rather loose, more comfortable and practical than anything, and I'm getting compliments all the time, something rather new to me.
Go for your beautiful shoes, and don't let somebody make you feel bad about them, no matter if it's your father or not. He doesn't sound like somebody who has a sense for style and fashion, and even if he had - he has no business doing this to you, and probably only does it to feel empowered or whatever. *hugs*

[cornerofmadness]

Yeah he knows everything about everything and everyone needs his opinions. He's a jackass about that.

I have every intention of wearing my shoes and enjoying them.

And good on you for finding things that bring you joy too