Sometimes I hate I'm pessimistic

[cornerofmadness]

I try not to be. It's deeply ingrained. Case in point, today under my pen name someone friended me and then went into a review FB post for my novella to tell me that they aren't active on FB or messenger and they had questions about my novella they thought was better not asked in public.

Am I being a pessimist in thinking this isn't good? On one hand I'm like they wouldn't have gone to the trouble of friending me if it was bad. On the other, if it was good would they care it's public? So I did email them as they asked.

And now I'm waiting...and waiting. Sigh.

I did set it aside so I don't worry all night. I have enough of that with all my friends and family in the path of Hurricane Sally.

And wondering about friends who are leaving FB in droves (Understandably so) but they've left lj/dw too and some I'm totally out of contact with and now going to lose more. This isn't that uncommon but it's happening en masse lately and it makes me sad.

I had a plot idea that I'm putting here. I should make a story idea tag, it would be easier than searching my hard drive. Anyhow, sparked by Prodigal Son, Silence of the Lambs, an episode of DS9, I was thinking what if in a SF/F world, a group of people do have reincarnation but a tiny handful of them remember all their past lives and one of those lives is a killer, whispering in the current body's ear how to solve a current case

eta - I HAD made that tag earlier on. cool.

Comments

[rahirah]

I'm like, if you're gonna leave FB, come back to DW! (Not that I blame anyone for leaving FB. The only reason I'm on it is to stay in touch with mundane relatives.)

[cornerofmadness]

Same here (especially since that's the only place some relatives and friends interact)! I hate that I'm going to lose touch with people I enjoy interacting with.

I mean I'm on twitter but hell it's hard to follow people there. SO hard. I see your wife there occasionally (mostly because I go looking before my feed is HUGE some days and some days it's a fucking misery to look at so I don't)

[rahirah]

Twitter is useless for anything except getting outraged at politics.

[cornerofmadness]

Pretty much. Oh and following celebs and agents/authors.

[ysilme]

My main reason of keeping my FB is not losing contact to a handful of people I care about, as they aren't active anywhere anymore. Some of them do it for the same reason, but as their alternative is whatsapp.... ;op

I can relate to your pessimistic feelings about this reviewer. But perhaps it's really only something they feel uncomfortable talking publicly about because of who of their friends and acquaintances can see it.

I hope you're all staying safe! *hugs* *crosses fingers*

[cornerofmadness]

I hear you. I think a lot of us are only sticking around FB for others. I've never used whatsapp

That's a possibility though they commented on a gay fiction review site. I'm wondering if it's more of a 'i can't afford your book can I have a review copy' that's frowned on to ask openly. So far they haven't followed up on the email.

[aaronlisa]

That sounds odd that someone would want you to email them, especially in this day. I don't use messenger on FB because I refuse to install the app but I can log into the site on my desktop.

I hope everyone is safe.

I've not yet left FB, although I've wanted to leave that site since I first joined. I am not a fan. I wish there was some fandom social media site similar to FB but without all of the issues for people that have left fandom but want to stay in touch with fandom friends. When I was going through a phase this summer of reading a lot of old-school Buffy fic, specifically W/A stuff, it made me really sad about how many friends that I've lost over the years because they've left fandom, left whatever journaling site they were on and so on.

That plot idea sounds really cool.

[cornerofmadness]

Discord. That's where fans are going to chat these days from what I can see. Honestly I'm like OMG what is the big deal here. This is like it was back in 2001! It's just AOL chats rebranded!

But same here, I play games to relax on FB and that's about it. I miss the active days on LJ. I don't like tumblr and instagram is even less interactive

and thanks. I'll hang on to that plot idea

[enemytosleep]

I've left most platforms over the last few years. I sometimes peek on Tumblr for fanart, and I sometimes post here. It's been very freeing, but yeah it's easy to lose touch with folks in doing so. My guess is their question is one they don't want linked to public profiles simply for the subject matter of the book (not wanting folks to know they read scifi romance, etc. I think this was the psychics book?). If it does end up being negative just delete the message and move on.

[cornerofmadness]

I think eventually I will need to break with social media too but it's touch.

I would have thought that too if she hadn't been on an LGBT review site to tell me that message. So far no message

[enemytosleep]

I'm dying to know whether this message came through.

[cornerofmadness]

I friended her on FB, told her on FB I'd emailed her and zip, zero. Ah well, guess someone is regretting getting my attention now

[bay_alexison]

Like the others here, I still use FB to keep up with some friends and family there but I don't really post my status there and such.

I'm most active in Tumblr, Twitter, and Discord, but I've been checking back DW at least every couple days. I even participated in a community event here recently after haven't done so in years. I do prefer the community events here and LJ than Tumblr and Twitter though, more organized.

[cornerofmadness]

Same here. I'm doing discord and twitter a lot. Well twitter a lot and a couple discords. Definitely the LJ/DW things are much more organized than most of the other things. I do hope to do the whumptober stuff on Tumblr (I don't have one but this year they have an AO3 collection so naturally I have a big bang I have yet to finish)