Today was something
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cornerofmadnessI am feeling close to catching this plague my parents had (it's waiting for me to drive home). I did get out to go looking for ankle boots. Dear shoemakers, we don't need 1001 boots with 3 inch spiked heels. DSW Warehouse had a few no-heel boots but all in brown. Most of what I'd wear it with is blue-purple so black or grey only thanks. Macy's had two but had to be shipped (they're even out online) because it's the 'end of boot season.' It's JANUARY. How the shit is it the end of boot season? Raise your hand who wants sandals right now?
Came home, rather exhausted. Helped mom get stuff down out of the village but we didn't finish and after dinner Aunt S2 (mom's good friend) called. She can't stand up. This is the third time in 6 months she's gotten so run down (mostly due to her own lack of desire to help herself). Mom and I had to go get her up. She had fallen asleep in the seated position and her legs locked up.
Also her nurse needs to be more on the ball. She might have cellulitis from a scratch but it's so bloody obvious a) she has pitting edema b) hemosiderin deposits and c) these wounds are venous stasis ulcers She needs to be seen by a wound care doc.
But more importantly she needs to be reasonable about her care and she is not. She refuses any suggestions to keep her in her home (like a lift chair) but also refuses to even consider going to something more manageable like a senior apartment or more likely assisted living.
This was an issue for me when I was seeing patients and I was much younger then with less understanding. Trust me, now that I'm a) older b) chronically ill c)damaged enough that mobility will be an issue I get it. But on the other hand, I also understand I might not get to stay in my home for life. I get that I can't keep calling friends to do everything for me (Until last year she went out and hell she was house sitting mom and her other friend's mother and now she won't even go out for groceries) She has stopped doing even simple things like wearing clothes and bathing. She is mentally there but she refuses to be bothered with these things. She just wants to watch tv and talk on the phone. If I wasn't here, what exactly did she think my mom could have done
In better news while taking apart the village I knelt on my bad knee from standing AND stood back up (pushing off the table to do it) twice for the first time since I destroyed my knee. I am proud of myself.
Came home, rather exhausted. Helped mom get stuff down out of the village but we didn't finish and after dinner Aunt S2 (mom's good friend) called. She can't stand up. This is the third time in 6 months she's gotten so run down (mostly due to her own lack of desire to help herself). Mom and I had to go get her up. She had fallen asleep in the seated position and her legs locked up.
Also her nurse needs to be more on the ball. She might have cellulitis from a scratch but it's so bloody obvious a) she has pitting edema b) hemosiderin deposits and c) these wounds are venous stasis ulcers She needs to be seen by a wound care doc.
But more importantly she needs to be reasonable about her care and she is not. She refuses any suggestions to keep her in her home (like a lift chair) but also refuses to even consider going to something more manageable like a senior apartment or more likely assisted living.
This was an issue for me when I was seeing patients and I was much younger then with less understanding. Trust me, now that I'm a) older b) chronically ill c)damaged enough that mobility will be an issue I get it. But on the other hand, I also understand I might not get to stay in my home for life. I get that I can't keep calling friends to do everything for me (Until last year she went out and hell she was house sitting mom and her other friend's mother and now she won't even go out for groceries) She has stopped doing even simple things like wearing clothes and bathing. She is mentally there but she refuses to be bothered with these things. She just wants to watch tv and talk on the phone. If I wasn't here, what exactly did she think my mom could have done
In better news while taking apart the village I knelt on my bad knee from standing AND stood back up (pushing off the table to do it) twice for the first time since I destroyed my knee. I am proud of myself.
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Yes!
Date: 2023-01-07 11:11 am (UTC)Re: Yes!
Date: 2023-01-07 07:33 pm (UTC)