tales of woe

[cornerofmadness]

Just looked over my finances...there is no way to pay down my credit cards without getting a loan from the parentals (who'll do that without fussing about how long it takes me to pay them back) Rising student loan costs plus the car have me spending down to my last 50$ and I had to use the last of my savings to pay my loans today.

This also means I'm pretty much trapped in the ass end of OH. It's cheap here. Most colleges do NOT pay more than I make now and I wouldn't be able to afford rent. That's a lovely feeling for the end of the year.


And then there's the sinking feeling 2010 is going to be the year of the funeral for me. There's my aunt and my grandmother and a friend or two who will NOT go to the doctor's for obviously serious stuff (no one here on my flist, you guys are smart enough to seek help when you need it). The aunt who had to have a pacemaker put in can barely breathe but not only will she NOT go to the ER she won't even call her heart doctor. Grandma is just as bad, lying to the nurses. My other aunt (mom's best friend as opposed to blood relative) has varices (varicose veins) in her GI tract so she's always hemorraghing but at least she seeks help. However, she's eating herself to death and food has become a complete obsession for her.

It comes a point where you just throw up your hands and say, whatever. die. trying to get them to take care of themselves becomes such a challenge you feel worn like a rock in the river. My sympathy has drained out. Don't cry to me you're sick when you refuse all treatment (and it's not a matter of insurance with these guys, they're fully covered. They just don't want to be in a hospital for a few days)

bah.

Comments

[rain-oubliette.livejournal.com]

My condolences. If I can help out financially, tell me. (I live at home, remember? I don't have rent. Yeah, I have a car payment, student loans, etc... but not rent.)

As to the people who are playing ding dong ditch on death's door (alliteration! Mwa-ha-ha-ha-ha!) I totally understand. I have relatives that have yet to get over the death of my mom and aunt that was back in 2001. I should say, recover from, not get over. Anyway, they suffer in misery and woe but won't do anything to CHANGE their misery and woe. They also wonder why I only visit them once a year. GAH!

[cornerofmadness.livejournal.com]

thanks. I appreciate the offer. I forgot to mention the problem also stems from the whole getting injured and living on credit for 6 years which was doable until this fall when the interest shot up to nearly 30% so I've been trying to pay them off. I think I overdid it.


I like that alliteration. That's just it. Things happen. You have to deal with it. Right now I wish I were back in OH because my knee isn't getting better and it's workman's comp so i can't get it checked here. it's still bluish and I'm afraid there's a blood clot in there. Oh well just a few more days...(but see i GO even if it'snot as serious as I think it is)

[rain-oubliette.livejournal.com]

Holy shit that's a high interest rate!

Yeah. I agree. As my great-grandfather Cazad always said, "The doctor can only do so much. You have to do your part, too." So if you're too stupid to go to the doctor, don't expect any GOOD changes. You'll get BAD ones but not good ones usually.

[cornerofmadness.livejournal.com]

Yeah Sears and the like are at 27%. 0_0

exactly. They frustrate you

[masqthephlsphr.livejournal.com]

You have friends.

[cornerofmadness.livejournal.com]

yes i do and very good ones. thanks

[evil-little-dog.livejournal.com]

Ugh. Just...ugh.

...want a young dog to bring you joy? Ummm, prolly not, vet bills.

*sigh*

[cornerofmadness.livejournal.com]

and it's a dog. But i'm now rethinking that cat...

[evil-little-dog.livejournal.com]

Rethinking as in yay or nay?

[cornerofmadness.livejournal.com]

as in nay

[nowhere-winry.livejournal.com]

And that reason being?

[cornerofmadness.livejournal.com]

can't afford

[ljgould.livejournal.com]

I know what you mean about credit card debt...it eats at you. I wish there was something I could do to help.

As for those who won't go to the doctor... As sad as it is, we all make our own choices, and some of them are bad. I know that the loss will be difficult, but you cannot make choices for them. Try to let it go (and I know that's hard, too.)

[cornerofmadness.livejournal.com]

oh i have let it go. I think that annoys THEM but sorry, I'm done worry about you when you can't be bothered to help yourself

[enemytosleep]

Having started the business this year, I can fully sympathize with the suckage of credit card debt. Here's hoping more stories will sell in 2010 for some extra $$.

And it can be so heartbreaking when people you care about doesn't care about themselves. I've lost friends who struggled with their addictions...slightly different scenario, but it boils down to the same basic principle. Here's a hug. *hug*

[cornerofmadness.livejournal.com]

oh i know you can relate. You're doing even scarier stuff

Iknow how that goes too. My mom's sister died of alcoholism

[bob_fish.livejournal.com]

Credit card companies are evil - as I know from experience ...

I do know what you mean about family. Can be very frustrating - my grandparents are currently in a similar situation. They're both frail and really need assistance. The thing is, social services could provide a carer, my grandad could get oxygen at home for his COPD on the NHS, they just don't want to ask for these things. Very sweet lovely people, just very proud and stubborn, and not inclined to listen to my poor mum as in their eyes she's still about twelve ... So yes, it's very stressful and heartwrenching, quite see where you're coming from. Dr H gets particularly wound up about these things from a doctor-y perspective, because like you she's actually got the knowledge to make a more educated assessment of what might be going on and might need to be done.

[cornerofmadness.livejournal.com]

student loans also very evil

sorry to hear about the grandparents. Sounds just like grandma

[a2zmom.livejournal.com]

Credit card debt is a killer.

Sorry about your relatives. I just don't understand that mentality.

[cornerofmadness.livejournal.com]

it is. Mine isn't even that bad. It's the loans

I know. I just don't get it at all

[rahirah]

Credit cards, gah. (And every time you think there's a chance of paying them off, naturally some emergency strikes, and there you go again...)

[cornerofmadness.livejournal.com]

exactly. Paying them off is how i think i got into this mess. When they did that huge rate hike i shelled out a lot of money...apparently too much

[ladystarlightsj.livejournal.com]

*hugs and offers chocolate. Or tequila, whichever*

I get you about the finances, trust me.

[cornerofmadness.livejournal.com]

i have no doubts of that

thanks

[wildrider.livejournal.com]

Bah, indeed. At the moment I can only send virtual chocolate (which will, at least, not screw with your blood sugar!)!

[cornerofmadness.livejournal.com]

thanks

[silvrethorn.livejournal.com]

I'm finding myself about as bankrupt as you this coming year, but oddly enough for the exact opposite reason. While the interest charges on your credit card balances skyrocketed, the interest payments on my CD's tanked. I've gone from $160 a month in spending money to about $45. I have to count every penny, and I can afford, basically, nothing. The monthly bag of bird kibble from Petsmart, a bottle of magnesium capsules from the health food store and a matcha latte from Starbucks will now wipe me out financially for that entire month. Do I feel your pain? Hell yeah. It feels like everybody I know is frozen in place right now, and it sucks.

[cornerofmadness.livejournal.com]

yes it does speaking of which i forgot to mail your b irthday gift

[silvrethorn.livejournal.com]

Speaking of mailing gifts, I need to ask you this: When you use garden tools, which hand do you use? I know you're right-handed, but given your tendinitis, do you still use your right hand when you dig, etc., or do you favor your left hand now?

[cornerofmadness.livejournal.com]

i go back and forth depending on pain and laziness. i do tend to keep to the right

[ozma914.livejournal.com]

I hope things won't be quite as bad as you fear they will in 2010 ... but I'd be lying if I told you I didn't have a feeling of doom for this year, myself. I'll keep my fingers crossed, anyway.

[cornerofmadness.livejournal.com]

i hear you thanks