Celebrated Mom's birthday early

[cornerofmadness]

Technically it's tomorrow but my brother and his wife could be here today with pizza. And the ability to make me feel like I SO don't matter. It's the weird thing. He doesn't do this when we're at his place but here, every damn time. Let's see I was told my opinion wasn't the only one and didn't matter. And then with Dad, I hear the words 'let's agree to disagree' come out of Dad's mouth. Blinks with me he never says that. He will research for hours on line to prove me wrong (and heaven help me if I did get a detail wrong) and my opinions are always wrong. We never get to be on opposite sides with respect so my only conclusion is something is inherently wrong with me in their eyes.

I'm also pretty furious that Mom has invited Prejudice Girl and her Hateful Husband to damn near everything this holiday. I'm hoping they won't be here tomorrow like they were meant to (because Prejudice Girl is sick (For the newcomers to my blog, PG is the daughter of my parent's best friends but has NONE of their kindness and good hearts (and her mom is gone now so she's like hooked up wiht my mom as a second mom). My parents DO NOT believe me about the horrible things I've heard these two say about gays, blacks, jews, name it, they hate it and oddly they ARE good to my parents but I hate them and in this friendship over the last decade my parents have gotten insanely conservative (they've been democrats my whole life until these two).

I'm angry that they want me to spend Mom's birthday with them, Christmas Day, the day after Christmas, another day next week and potentially New Year's Eve. It's insane. They know how I feel so you can see where I rate. Because of course I'm exaggerating things because those two are republicans and I hate all republicans. Blinks. I don't hate people based on political party. I hate them for the things they do and say.

But it's up to me. I don't have to go to Christmas Day or the day after dinner. So I can be with people I hate or be alone on Christmas.


On the bright side, I cleaned up my remix fic and finished three more projects for fandom_stocking now to start on some 12_daysofficmas stories

Comments

[enemytosleep]

Family crap is the right tag. We've had a rough few months over here after one of my brothers killed himself in September. I'm not sure what's happening with xmas anymore as for the most part, everyone has stopped talking to each other except for my mom and my sister and I. I don't understand why families so often seem to go out of their way to be hateful. I can only guess that your parents see something of their friend in the daughter and feel connected to her somehow. I'm sorry that it's such a thorn for you (and I don't mean that to sound like I'm downplaying things, there's just no appropriate words for these kinds of situations sometimes).

[cornerofmadness]

Firstly I just saw this (because freaking DW isn't sending me comments) and I am so sorry to hear about your brother. I have no words for that.


Here's the thing with this bitch. She doesn't say some of these things to my parents but she says them to me because I'm so openly liberal and accepting of others. What pisses ME off is my parents don't believe ME when I tell them.

[enemytosleep]

Thank you. My family is complicated and sadly this is not the first time we have been here with suicide. There aren't words for it, but it's nice to have peeps who put good vibes into the world and share fun hobbies with me, so thanks for being a fun fandom buddy all these years. It does mean a lot.

Oh these types know how to manipulate and she is doing a good job of dividing and conquering here. May she have undercooked chicken at her next dinner and get the squirts, amen.

[cornerofmadness]

That's very unfortunate. I've been there with suicide many times but only with friends. I'm glad I've been of a help. That's one of the things I love about blogging,being able to communicate with people.

I'm all for that result for her.

[sylvanwitch]

I'm sorry you have to put up with any of that, never mind all of it. Coming from a dysfunctional family myself, I can definitely relate. I hope you find time to take care of yourself and don't feel compelled to have to put yourself in the company of these people, who sound truly awful. *hugs*

[cornerofmadness]

Thanks. It's not like they were always like this. I have no idea why these two have SUCH a hold on them (and my uncle. His wife hates the woman)