Friday Thoughts

[cornerofmadness]

DO you know someone who is always complaining? Do you enjoy spending time with them? Probably not. If there are people in your life who make you feeel low, stay away from them, even if they are close friends or family members. They are determined that they and you willnever have a good day. They are victims of life and want to stay that way but you don't. Tea Bliss by Theresa Cheung

Yeah I do. Sometimes I think I AM this person and I have tried hard to make changes to not be. Have been eying up some friends with the idea of I don't need this negativity in my life. Like calls to like and this whole lifestyle change I'm working on would probably benefit from more removal of the negative.

So positive... I took my computer into work to the high speed, got it all gussied up. Added two rather hard hidden object games from Bigfish that should be fun.

I'm almost ready to send off Riding with Strangers

Read all the way through Machiavelli Moon and wow the ending really DOES suck. I have no idea what I was thinking. SOmeone gets away (I meant to do that. Read Sequel) but no one mentions it. In fact, the scientific aspect, like i mentioned last night somehow got completely neglected. I just strapped rockets to the endings butt and let it blast past so fast it's crazy.

More positive things...well cute

if I lie right here she MUST notice me as she works on her Dresden story

guess which end is the bitey one

he's a little less furry on the tail and belly tonight since someone seemed to have ROLLED in cockleburrs and I had to cut them out

Comments

[evil-little-dog.livejournal.com]

I can tell which end is the bitey end but I'm just mentally quoting Calvin (from Calvin and Hobbes): "I always forget that five of his ends are pointy when he lies like that."

[cornerofmadness.livejournal.com]

hahaha

[sp23.livejournal.com]

Did you get Mystery Case files: Return to Ravenhurst? Because, dude! That game rocks socks.

Hee, the kitty is very bendy, isn't he?

[cornerofmadness.livejournal.com]

Mystery case file Madame Fate and Mystery case file Huntsville (they were both free so...) the puzzles in Fate are hard

[sp23.livejournal.com]

Oh, man, the puzzles in Fate *killed* me. If you get the chance, I really do recommend you get Return. Best hidden object/adventure game I've played so far. Really keeps you in the story. And it's kind of a sequel to Fate, too.

[cornerofmadness.livejournal.com]

i'll keep that in mind. holy hell i am SO stuck on this viewmaster puzzle in Fate. And unlike Redrum there isn't an easy way to rack up hints.

[sp23.livejournal.com]

If you get really stuck, go to the Big Fish "Fate" forums. You can usually find a hint to get you through it. I had to do that a couple times.

[cornerofmadness.livejournal.com]

there are forums? cool (can yuo tell i never buy these things?)

[sp23.livejournal.com]

Yeah, the forums can be pretty useful. There's a tab on the Big Fish home page.

[cornerofmadness.livejournal.com]

i shall have to check that out

[wildrider.livejournal.com]

Bwahahaha!!!! I am glad I wasn't drinking something when I looked at that "which end is the bitey one" picture! Hehehehehehehe!!! (I believe the bitey end is the one at the bottom of the picture, but I'm not sure.) You should make that an icon. When that cat sleeps around the house...

I'll still finish reading the current version of MMoon, anyway.

[cornerofmadness.livejournal.com]

he's nothing but fur. Seriously.

thank you. I appreciate it. You might have insight about how to spruce up that ending.

Is also considering chucking the opening chapters and starting a little closer to the action. Still not sure about that

[wildrider.livejournal.com]

Hee.

I like most of the setup; it just needs some smoothing. I just got to Sulien sinking down the blood-stained pillar, so I have a ways to go yet.

[cornerofmadness.livejournal.com]

nods, well this is like 11 years old so yes i'm seeing plenty of places to change, especially some of Sulien and Maddie's atttiudes.

yeah you have a long way to go

[chaos-by-design.livejournal.com]

I know far too many people like that. I used to be like that; I think I've gotten better but I definitely have my bad days still. Also to be honest you do seem to complain quite a bit.

[saphira112.livejournal.com]

I thought you were gonna say ME for a second thar *rants too much*

[cornerofmadness.livejournal.com]

haha, more of a generalized statement

[lilachigh.livejournal.com]

clicked

[cornerofmadness.livejournal.com]

thanks

[rain-oubliette.livejournal.com]

"DO you know someone who is always complaining?"

I do. And you are no where NEAR her level. You might be a 0.5 on the scale if she were to be 10 (worst). If you were to factor in that her whining/bitching is about stupid shit - you'd be even less. *Hugs*

My cat has rolled in those burrs, too. This is how she came to be called Cockleburr.

[cornerofmadness.livejournal.com]

yes i knew you'd sympathize with the cockleburr king. You mentioned that's how your queen got her name

and thank you very much. I appreciate the vote of support. The way I see it, the negative stuff i do post tends to be just the things that happened to me that day.It's not like I'm going on and on and on about the SAME thing constantly. and even occasionally that's forgivable like you and the pain you're in right now

[rain-oubliette.livejournal.com]

There's a difference between "complaining" and "I'm sick and scared". I think we fit in the last one. I have a friend in England who puts her bitching about her health behind cuts. How nice. I read every other one, I think. (I'm not real close to her, on a friendship basis.) I do have one that just goes off about the same things/ situations over and over. I wish I had the balls (tits?) to tell her to read her own journal... "See, you've bitched about this before! Did you do anything to change that?! No?! Then this is why it happened again, you schmuck!" *Smackity smackity smack!*

[cornerofmadness.livejournal.com]

i've got a few like that too

another differences is we're NOT just whining about it. We're doing something to look into it and fix it.

speaking of which I'm sick of getting nauseated every time i eat so i'd better make another dr's appt

[sillymagpie.livejournal.com]

Oh, godz, my sister is a major victim! She's never been responsible for any problems in her life--everything "happens" to her. My mom was the same way.

I try not to be too much of a downer. Bad things happen, you try to make them better, some of them aren't your fault, but how you react to them is.

So--downturn in the economy is not my fault, but my not getting myself together to find additional work is. However, cutting my budget seems to have helped a great deal, and the prognosis for future work at my office seems good (crossed fingers).

[cornerofmadness.livejournal.com]

I have been the victim from time to time but having some real drama queens on the flist and in real life I swore I WOULD change. I have changed. I'm not so much complaining as relating the things that happen to me every day. Manyof them are unpleasant but I find ways around this. Some days I am just complaining but I DO take responsibility for my actions.

Sounds like you do too. Glad the budget cuts and what not have helped

[sillymagpie.livejournal.com]

Kyo certainly has a cute, fuzzy tummy! In the second picture, I can't decide if he looks more like an amazing headless cat or a tribble with legs...

[cornerofmadness.livejournal.com]

tribble with legs, i like that

[ishte.livejournal.com]

In some regards, I think you're at a point in your life that I came to a couple of years ago where I just said "Enough. All these people who are nothing but a negative influence in my life, and offer nothing positive are just going to have to see less of me. They're dragging me down with them, and I don't want it. And then I started cutting them out of my life (essentially.. I mean we're all still friends, but I just don't hang out with most of them very much any more. There are a couple I no longer talk to, because it was just that bad to the point where I realized that I didn't even LIKE them, much less want to be around them.)

One exercise for you to try, is for every negative though you find yourself having, find yourself a positive to counter it. It's hard at first, but after a while, it gets easier, and then after a while more, it becomes second nature. It just becomes what you do all the time.

Another. Seriously, eliminate the phrase "I can't" from your vocabulary. Learn to recognize that a lot of our "I can't"s are actually "I don't want to"s and that a lot of our "I don't want to"s aren't necessarily in our best interest if we don't do them. I'll give you an example.

I can't loose weight. I said this up until I reached about 175 and started finding that the excess interfered with my ability to do things I really liked, like skating and hiking and cycling. I couldn't loose weight, because I didn't have a compelling reason. So I didn't want to. I didn't want to do what was necessary because I thought it was inconvenient, or unpleasant. At 175# the weight outweighed (pardon) the inconvenience of changing my eating habits significantly. I did it, and lost 50 pounds. And for the most part I've kept it off. I can do more because I CAN keep it off, now that I recognize that my body's needs are different than they were in my 20's and because I can accept that and modify my behavior so that I don't have to modify other behavior that I don't want.

I'd rather be saying "I can't stop riding my bike" and meaning "I don't want to," than "I can't ride my bike any more" because I don't want to do what is necessary to keep riding it.

I can't find a new job. Honestly? I'm not looking as hard as I should be. I don't want to. I dislike my job, but I dislike the uncertainty of change more, and the stress of going to interviews and giving. That's my new task now. Changing my attitude towards this. Every time I change my attitude towards finding work, I find work. I just need to adjust my attitude to I Can, by saying "I want to." (and actually meaning it.

Does that make any sense to you?

[cornerofmadness.livejournal.com]

I think it makes perfect sense. It's pretty much what you find in a lot of the self help books and it's something I've been doing a lot of since I left Florida.

I'm also letting go of things which I never did before. Books I KNOW I wont' read again (series I love stay), tossing out crap I really dont' need to keep, and now excising some of the negative influences or just people I no longer share interests with. It happens in real life all the time, friends float apart but geez online it's like a major offense to cut someone.

Like you I'mnot looking as hard as I should for a job. I have reasons to stay. I love my coworkers. I could take over much of this department in five years. My reasons to leave are just as numerous b ut I'm being selective, looking only at places I know I'd love to live.