This isn't going to plan

[cornerofmadness]

I do NOT know how Prejudice Girl and Hateful Husband keep getting invited to shit. Mom promised they would only be up for her birthday, then my aunt and uncle invited them to their party too tonight. My cousin (who also hates them) and I ate at the kiddie table and spent the whole night talking exclusively to her kids and her daughter's boyfriend. I didn't feel like I could be in the other room (nor did she). Even she notices my parents change around these two. Then Mom was SUPPOSED to go down to PG's aunt's house (the twin to Mom's best friend who was PG's mother and even she was ashamed of PG's bigotry.) but they say instead of thursday (where I was already going to meet a friend) they're coming HERE tomorrow.

Oh was I pissed. Mom's like you can stay upstairs and work (as if that would fly). Luckily in talking to my young cousin about Star Wars (after my brother spoiled it AGAIN, just like he did with what happened to Han), I realized that it's already GONE in my theaters back home. I have plans every day til the 1st so if I want to see it (and I DO) I can go tomorrow night and get the fuck out of here. Having to spend THREE days of my vacation with these people, is three days too many.

I ended up outside three times in 15 degrees, sans shoes and in a sleeveless top with a thin dress jacket half because I was avoiding them and half because fuck you female hormones, so goddamn hot.

In the one or two good things, cousins I've never met before came up to visit before we left for Lucky Uncle's. One of his sons is a brewer. Bright eyes for that. I did get to learn a bit more about the Croatian side of the family and the city where my great grandmother was born.

And I did get up a flash fic from one of my universes (Soldiers of the Sun) here

Comments

Well ...

[ysabetwordsmith]

Often it's because the older people in the family have nostalgic feelings for the person(s) you despise. Their relationship with this individual may be quite different than yours.

But it's why I try to avoid family activities with certain people. They have a right to be themselves and live as they please, and I have a right to choose not to participate in that.

It sucks when relatives want such different things. Often the only thing to do about it is host your own events, or go to events outside your family, where you know that person won't be and the environment is more to your liking.

Re: Well ...

[cornerofmadness]

This is true. My parents USED to be more liberal than they are now (age does play a role because I saw that a lot in my patients) but these two really bring out the worst (though they DO treat my parents very well).

I can't always get away from them because these get togethers are the only way I can see most of my family members.

Today when it was just them I was gone. Of course that pisses off my parents but they can just deal with it.

[smittenbyu]

Agree with the comment above. My parents' cousins are also obnoxious prejudiced people that my parents can't stand. They still get invited and they tolerate their presence and everyone is requested to keep certain topics off the table on special occasions. Mom said, once my dad had enough and spoke his mind. It did nothing to change the other obnoxious family.

But they are family and their history goes back so many decades and they have made it through so many rough times together. So, they still get invited.

Mom says their frequency has reduced and direct one-on-one interaction has reduced. But it's to keep the peace.

Sigh. In my visits home, I have also reduced visits to their homes. If they want to meet they come see me at my parents' place. Heck, I even hosted them at our place when they visited the US! :X ugh. It's such a love-hate relationship. Don't understand.

[cornerofmadness]

It is tough especially when these get togethers are the only way I get to see my relatives in one place so I can't always avoid these people.

like last night, I avoided them the best I could which is about all I can do