I lost some wisdom today
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cornerofmadnessMy wisdom tooth (upper left) shattered. I have all 4 of mine (the bottom two are too entwined with nerves to pull them and I have a big mouth where the wisdom teeth fit comfortably) Had to run to Aspen Dental (one of those big chain revolving door places) because there are shards of tooth wiggling around in there like I'm 8.
Long story short (after way too many x-rays) not only is this tooth shattered, it might also be abscessed and all of this might have been the trigger for the trigeminal neuralgia for the least 8 months. And two crowns are bad (one I knew was, I had been planning to have it fixed this fall) and both eye teeth have cavities. Well fun. I can hear Aspen going ca-ching as they add this up. I tell them no, JUST the broken tooth please and yeah gimme my x-rays. I'm only going to be here two more weeks (lie but they don't need to know) I'll have my dentist look it over.
They'll pull the tooth tomorrow (and now it's starting to hurt) And through out all of this, my Dexcom is screaming. So I had to stop the dental exam twice to get sugar pills because yesterday I was too high to read. today I'm at a critical low, so low the DexCom can only say URGENT critical low. FFS!
The stupid thing is I've been chewing on the right for a long time now thanks to the nerve pain, no issues. Today because the tooth is broken every bite I take I nail my left cheek. WHY?
I go from here to CVS to get meds. They've lost my insulins. Took 15 minutes to find them. FFS (again)
Speaking of FFS, I'm pausing the women of fandom today to talk about a few things that fans can just stop doing.
1. I MISS the Prodigal Son fandom, I don't know what it was, maybe we were all older or something but there was a lot less drama in that fandom (notice I didn't say none)
2. I've said this so many times before harassing creators is wrong. Harassing them to go faster serves no one. Harassing them because they're upset over their show being leaked makes you an ass
3. stop giving a market to the people who steal shows (Hazbin has been leaked for S2 AND S3)
4. back to harassing, it's one thing to critique a show among your friends or even doing meta and posting it and there is another to keep putting it in the creator's face telling them how badly they're doing.
5. faking creators/actors saying awful things to prove whatever random point you have is probably illegal (This time it was Amir Talai again because someone is mad Alastor is being voiced by a cis het middle eastern man and not an ace biracial one and someone faked a bunch of stuff with Amir being homophobic and then is punching out at other fans exposing this campaign of theirs)
6. Burn out is real, if a fan creator needs a break, let them have it (and it's sad that YT and other social media algorithms really force creators to the breaking point)
7. Tags are a thing. USE. THEM! I say this as an old fan creator. I started with paper zines, to yahoo groups and web rings to small websites to FFN to AO3 and beyond. Until AO3 you really didn't/couldn't do content warnings. I admit it, I was slow to learn to tag correctly (but to be fair it's not too often I do things that might be triggering and the major AO3 tags already warn for that). During Prodigal Son, younger fans laughed at me (good naturedly) because I tagged like an old woman.
I still kinda do but I've gotten much better but ffs, if you are writing your trans/intersex/genderflipped head canon, TAG IT. Tag your freaking incest fic. Etc Etc. Look I don't care what you write. Not here to police that. I am here imploring you to give the reader a heads up now that we have systems that make it easy to do that.
When I was back home I got to print a few things at work since there is no secretary right now (shhhhh) one story was LONG by a creator I do like. It was smutty (eh, actually not even my favorite thing to read) but it was also intersexed Angel Dust (I think. I couldn't quite tell, either that or trans man Angel) I do not personally want to read non-canon genders, don't care if you write them but I fell for a character the way they are in canon and that's my preference. I thought maybe it's on you. You didn't read the tags well. Reread it, nope no tags mentioning changing Angel's gender (and there is TONS of about his clit and folds in this over and over, I didn't think also this was going to be 80 pages of nothing but sex but what can you do.
We have the ability to warn readers we're making major changes to characters. Do it (I think some people don't want to because they think people will ignore their story. Yeah, maybe but man do you really want someone who is going to be way more upset than me reading something they get triggered by or don't want to read?)
Long story short (after way too many x-rays) not only is this tooth shattered, it might also be abscessed and all of this might have been the trigger for the trigeminal neuralgia for the least 8 months. And two crowns are bad (one I knew was, I had been planning to have it fixed this fall) and both eye teeth have cavities. Well fun. I can hear Aspen going ca-ching as they add this up. I tell them no, JUST the broken tooth please and yeah gimme my x-rays. I'm only going to be here two more weeks (lie but they don't need to know) I'll have my dentist look it over.
They'll pull the tooth tomorrow (and now it's starting to hurt) And through out all of this, my Dexcom is screaming. So I had to stop the dental exam twice to get sugar pills because yesterday I was too high to read. today I'm at a critical low, so low the DexCom can only say URGENT critical low. FFS!
The stupid thing is I've been chewing on the right for a long time now thanks to the nerve pain, no issues. Today because the tooth is broken every bite I take I nail my left cheek. WHY?
I go from here to CVS to get meds. They've lost my insulins. Took 15 minutes to find them. FFS (again)
Speaking of FFS, I'm pausing the women of fandom today to talk about a few things that fans can just stop doing.
1. I MISS the Prodigal Son fandom, I don't know what it was, maybe we were all older or something but there was a lot less drama in that fandom (notice I didn't say none)
2. I've said this so many times before harassing creators is wrong. Harassing them to go faster serves no one. Harassing them because they're upset over their show being leaked makes you an ass
3. stop giving a market to the people who steal shows (Hazbin has been leaked for S2 AND S3)
4. back to harassing, it's one thing to critique a show among your friends or even doing meta and posting it and there is another to keep putting it in the creator's face telling them how badly they're doing.
5. faking creators/actors saying awful things to prove whatever random point you have is probably illegal (This time it was Amir Talai again because someone is mad Alastor is being voiced by a cis het middle eastern man and not an ace biracial one and someone faked a bunch of stuff with Amir being homophobic and then is punching out at other fans exposing this campaign of theirs)
6. Burn out is real, if a fan creator needs a break, let them have it (and it's sad that YT and other social media algorithms really force creators to the breaking point)
7. Tags are a thing. USE. THEM! I say this as an old fan creator. I started with paper zines, to yahoo groups and web rings to small websites to FFN to AO3 and beyond. Until AO3 you really didn't/couldn't do content warnings. I admit it, I was slow to learn to tag correctly (but to be fair it's not too often I do things that might be triggering and the major AO3 tags already warn for that). During Prodigal Son, younger fans laughed at me (good naturedly) because I tagged like an old woman.
I still kinda do but I've gotten much better but ffs, if you are writing your trans/intersex/genderflipped head canon, TAG IT. Tag your freaking incest fic. Etc Etc. Look I don't care what you write. Not here to police that. I am here imploring you to give the reader a heads up now that we have systems that make it easy to do that.
When I was back home I got to print a few things at work since there is no secretary right now (shhhhh) one story was LONG by a creator I do like. It was smutty (eh, actually not even my favorite thing to read) but it was also intersexed Angel Dust (I think. I couldn't quite tell, either that or trans man Angel) I do not personally want to read non-canon genders, don't care if you write them but I fell for a character the way they are in canon and that's my preference. I thought maybe it's on you. You didn't read the tags well. Reread it, nope no tags mentioning changing Angel's gender (and there is TONS of about his clit and folds in this over and over, I didn't think also this was going to be 80 pages of nothing but sex but what can you do.
We have the ability to warn readers we're making major changes to characters. Do it (I think some people don't want to because they think people will ignore their story. Yeah, maybe but man do you really want someone who is going to be way more upset than me reading something they get triggered by or don't want to read?)
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Date: 2025-07-16 02:03 pm (UTC)sorry you had to go through this too
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Date: 2025-07-16 11:13 am (UTC)Also, your blood sugar is a needy little bitch.
Agree with everything you said.
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Date: 2025-07-16 02:01 pm (UTC)my blood sugar is made of suck
I want to be an old woman shaking my cane talking about how more civilized fandom was in my day before social media but then I remember how toxic Buffy fandom was and from what I heard Supernatural and Harry Potter were bad too . ..sigh fans
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Date: 2025-07-16 04:25 pm (UTC)I made a lot of tagging mistakes too in the beginning, most notably tagging relationships that were minor or background not realizing I someone was going to be searching for fics that focused around that relationship. I learned!
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Date: 2025-07-16 05:07 pm (UTC)Same here with the tagging. I made that minor relationship tag errors. Sometimes now I just put that in the tag.
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Date: 2025-07-16 09:01 pm (UTC)One of mine has been trying to grow in crooked (after having had another one out which in theory should have made room for it) and I dread the day it ever gives me pain because I don't really want the removal if it's avoidable
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Date: 2025-07-17 01:30 am (UTC)ugh to that. good luck with yours
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Date: 2025-07-17 08:56 pm (UTC)Hard agree to that list and I'll have add that fan pages on Facebook need to stop piling on those of us who disagree with their favourite eps. For fic warnings I remember having to include a warnings section in my headers/notes for some fandoms especially on Yahoo groups, message boards and some LJ comms.
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Date: 2025-07-17 10:02 pm (UTC)Oh yes, or people's favorite pairing. Look I don't care if your ship is canon or crack, it's all good but a) don't jump on someone if they don't like your ship or if you don't like their ship b) just scroll on past stuff that isn't for you? How hard is that?
And definitely, we're all going to have different favorite episodes. If your favorite isn't mine, I'm not going to come into your post and dump on it. If you ask for my opinion, I'd tell you.
I think as few of my old stories DO have warnings on it for character death or rape or some gruesome violence but on the whole I don't remember too any stories having warnings (then again my memory is crap)
Another caveat ought to be be careful of how openly you talk about someone online. I had a Pson story where I'm describing a surgical procedure. It's tagged for that and gore and I had someone melt down at me for giving her nightmares because it wasn't tagged for dissection. I replied it's not a dissection but a surgical procedure and it is tagged.
She insisted violently that it was a dissection so the warning section was two paragraphs about how surgery isn't dissection and then I found out this was a sock puppet account for someone I knew in the fandom and she was on another sock puppet twitter account badmouthing me not realizing that she was talking to friends of mine.
Made her day when I confronted her.
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